hello. my name is ken & i'm delightful

meet ken. ken is delightful. not that i know from personal experience. my friend, johnny b. told me so. err.....kinda.

last weekend the hurst gaggle of women put themselves in time out. for women. i guess this is not a commonly known event in utah but it's put on by deseret books & includes LDS speakers/musicians- much like women's conference.

the big star of the weekend, by FAR, was kris belcher. kris was born with cancerous tumors on her eyes. at the age of 7, she could only see out of one of her eyes. right after her first son's first birthday, she lost all use of her eyes. her struggles didn't make her the supa-star but her contagious attitude. i've never laughed so hard. here's an article about kris. her husband said he met kris by calling 1-900-BABE, which is, coincidentally, how justin found me.


while kris was amazing, i really looked forward to johnny b's talk. john bytheway is the mormon's version of dane cook. i've heard his talks and watched his videos but let me tell you, this guy is phenom. he's the one who introduced me to ken.

johnny b. told the story of ken and his delighted wife. john went on a cruise where he had the opportunity to speak to couples. during one of the meet & greets, one woman stood up and introduced herself. but really, all she would talk about is ken, her delightful husband. ken, supposedly, is the bee's knees. and she was quite delighted to be there with ken because ken is delightful. john said everything  this woman would talk, she inevitably would brag about her delightful husband. john said "i wondered if she was just overly infatuated with ken or if ken was really delightful- that's when i realized- IT DIDN'T MATER!". she thought her husband was delightful and so, he was. [or maybe the other way around].

johnny b. went on to talk about how, as spouses, we first appreciate all that our husband/wife does for us. [the first time justin rubbed my feet- i was over the moon!] eventually, it leads to that action becoming expected [a foot rub per gilmore girls episode] then finally, demanded [my feet need lotion! now!]. john said that he & his wife have tried to make it a point to always stay in that appreciative state of mind.

it got me thinking, wowzers- i demand a whole lot. now i know i'm not a low-maintenance kind of woman. anyone who knows my grandmother or jessica simpson basically know me. i am an offender of this appreciate-expect-demand cycle. and i don't think know i'm not delightful all of the time. my dream is to become ken. or justin to become ken? but not like ken, the barbie doll. but that'd be hot. either way, i want one of us to be so delightful the other one can't stop talking about them! or someone to talk about them being so delightful that they are. doesn't everyone want that?

stephen covey [wrote the seven habits of highly effective people] said

"between stimulus and response is our greatest power- the freedom to choose".

 i'm going to choose to be delightful. whose with me?!

10/28/2010
AFTERTHOUGHTS
last night on my favorite new show, modern family, phil talked about how it's important to remain delightful in a marriage- while talking to a neighbor who Phil just found out is getting a divorce:

"that's coconuts- you are super delightful!"

boom. you've been lawyered.